When Mother’s Day is Sad

But everyone has gone the wrong way.

(Psalms 14:3) (ERV)

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silhouette of mama’s rose

My heart is relieved with the knowledge that God can bring good from chaos.  We’ve all gone the wrong way at least once in our lives; and if you’re anything like me, you’ve taken the wrong road many times…sometimes many times in one day!

Psalms 14:3, the words of King David, acknowledges everyone has at one time in their life taken the wrong road.  David knew this better than anyone, because he was an adulterer and a murder.  Daily he had to live  in the knowledge that his actions had led to someone’s death.  David cried often over the mistakes he had made and yet God says of David, “He’s a man after [My] own heart.”

Mother’s day is hard for me…for several reasons.  First of all, I miss my mama who died three years ago.  Missing her is hard enough, but when we also harbor guilt, then mother’s day can feel almost unbearable.  I wish I had spent more time with her.  Second of all, I miss my children who live states away.  I don’t get to see them much and on mother’s day this hurts more than usual.  Third of all, I’m tortured with decisions, made in the past that cannot be erased-decisions that still affect the present.

Yes, yesterday [mother’s day] was hard for me.  I tried to smile but sadness chased it away.  I tried to laugh but tears washed the laughter away.  And so, like David I spent the day lamenting over a past that cannot be changed.

I know living this way is a waste of time and energy, but don’t we all fall into this trap…or is it just me?

God doesn’t want us to live in this despair!  He is our Father and He understands.  His arms are always open, and He wants us to fall into them and cry.  Sometimes we just need to cry…and He understands.  When we do,  He holds us close, without judgement, and then wipes away the tears and tells us how much He love us. Often others fail to forgive and forget but, but our Father does both and He does them well.

This morning I read these words by Sarah Young from her devotional, Jesus Calling

“Because you are human, you will continue to make mistakes…Your failures can be a source of blessing, humbling you and giving you empathy for other people in their weaknesses. Best of all, failure highlights your dependence on Me…I am able to bring beauty out of the morass of your mistakes.  Trust Me, and watch to see what I will do.”[voice of God]

We are human, we makes mistakes and there will be pain; but there is a God who understands and wants heal our wounded souls.  (always thank God for the but’s)

My Prayer:  Sometimes Lord I don’t want to live…sometimes living can seem too sad.  On this mother’s day I miss my mom and I miss my children.  It feels like a doubled edged sword cutting into my heart.  And so attaching a rose to my lapel and saying “happy mother’s day” does nothing to make me happy.  No, Lord…just the opposite.  God, I don’t know what I would do if I didn’t have you.  Thank you for your shoulder I so often wash with tears.  Thank you for your arms that hold me in the dark.  Thank you for your holy kiss that wipes my tears away.  Thank you for your understanding, especially when all around do nothing but judge. Thank you for your maternal love that keeps me safe until the day when there will be no more tears.  In Jesus name…amen.

6 Comments Add yours

  1. Gail says:

    Beautifully written and expressed. And what a lovely prayer. I try to be happy and not cry on Mother’s Day but the tears always come. My mother’s been gone for almost 10 years and I still miss her so much on this day and would give my right arm just to be able to take her some flowers or just spend the day with her.

    1. Thank you, Gail. It would be so nice just to spend an hour with her…even if we didn’t talk…just to hold her hand.

      1. Gail says:

        Amen. I know EXACTLY what you mean.

  2. DeniseBalog says:

    Lisa, lovely, heart baring post. Thank you for opening up and sharing with us, your neighbors, and friends. Yes, we all have fallen short, and for most (me) I fall short daily, more often than not, several times a day! BUT, He is a good, good Father and is always open to crawl up in His lap and cry away. Thankful His mercies are new every morning, and praying your tomorrow will be brighter than today. Your friend, denise

    1. Aww thank you, Denise…you kind words make me smile. I’m so so glad He is a good God. When all else fails He will always be there. Thank you, dear friend.

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